@ Wednesday, 09. Feb, 2011 – 09:45:25
On Monday I found this comment waiting to be moderated. While it is available on the following page http://aflame.blog.co.uk/2010/07/07/the-myth-of-gay-monogamy-8930136/#c15045841 I thought it was so important I'd give it a post of its own. The author of the comment is to be commended for his bravery and his honesty as he recognises that people will be angry with him. But he has chosen to speak what he sees as the truth of the homosexual lifestyle when it comes to relationships.
I'm a gay male who also happens to be Christian. I live in Australia where gay marriage is still not legalised. I believe that my orientation is not a choice, but my faith is. I do not believe that being gay is sinful. I believe it is an orientation not a sin. I also believe that there is a difference between being gay and living a gay 'lifestyle'. No matter what your orientation is, you are capable of choosing your behaviours and how you treat others - including your partner. I also believe that marriage by it's very nature is about monogamy and many other things too. If you aren't willing to make a vow to be faithful to your partner and to put it into practice, then you shouldn't get married. Rather just have a live-in relationship. Many heterosexual people do this too. I've always supported gay marriage in principal, but at the same time questioned it's viability given the awful track record that the majority of the gay community has with the way they treat their partners and their relationships. I have witnessed and experienced this first-hand and will not back down on the issue. I know my fellow gays will be very angry at what I'm about to say but I will not back down on this matter. I feel too strongly about it. I've seen and experienced too much in the gay scene and I simply will not be silent on the matter. There has to be a change for the better, and as a community we do have to consider the facts and reflect on them. If we do not do this, we can not expect to be taken seriously and are fooling ourselves and entering into gay marriage on a whim. I believe that if the gay community so badly wants the right to marry then they need to show cause for their case. They need to show that they are ready to do it PROPERLY. From my personal experience 99% of gay males are promiscuous and can not treat a partner with any form of love, dignity, faithfulness or respect. Instead, partners are treated like consumable items that are to be used and discarded once your sexual urges carry you elsewhere. Yes, this is completely true. Let's not be foolish enough to deny it. I have walked a very long road to healing because of horrendous relationship experiences I've had with other gay men. I went into the gay world with a Christian up-bringing and values. I went into the gay world full of hope that I'd meet a kind and loving man who wanted to share a life together and be monogamous. For me, if I love someone with my heart there is just no way I could ever cheat. It's just not a question and it doesn't even enter my mind. Well, let me tell you that my gay dating experiences in my 20's were like an induction into another world. I have experienced some form of infidelity or abuse in EVERY relationship without exception. Either I was being cheated on, or the person I was dating was actually cheating on their partner and not being truthful about it. Partners have also all been abusive to varying degrees. I have yet to encounter one man who has been different. In the gay scene I have seen countless examples of this in other gay people's lives. It has always made me sick to my stomach. Where is the love? What are gay relationships built on? Sexual gratification or love? Most gay men would scoff at me for still holding onto ideals such as love, monogamy and marriage. It's sad to see how their hearts have hardened. So lets ask ourselves, why do we want gay marriage so badly? Are we ready for it? Will we do it properly? I know I'd have no problem doing it properly if I got married and I'd love to get married one day if I met the right man. I also know of a very small number of wonderful gay men who certainly would do marriage properly too. However, I regret to say that the majority of gay men out there are not ready for marriage. I base everything I've said on hard evidence - observations and personal experiences. My comments are not based on irrationality.
I'm a gay male who also happens to be Christian. I live in Australia where gay marriage is still not legalised. I believe that my orientation is not a choice, but my faith is. I do not believe that being gay is sinful. I believe it is an orientation not a sin. I also believe that there is a difference between being gay and living a gay 'lifestyle'. No matter what your orientation is, you are capable of choosing your behaviours and how you treat others - including your partner. I also believe that marriage by it's very nature is about monogamy and many other things too. If you aren't willing to make a vow to be faithful to your partner and to put it into practice, then you shouldn't get married. Rather just have a live-in relationship. Many heterosexual people do this too. I've always supported gay marriage in principal, but at the same time questioned it's viability given the awful track record that the majority of the gay community has with the way they treat their partners and their relationships. I have witnessed and experienced this first-hand and will not back down on the issue. I know my fellow gays will be very angry at what I'm about to say but I will not back down on this matter. I feel too strongly about it. I've seen and experienced too much in the gay scene and I simply will not be silent on the matter. There has to be a change for the better, and as a community we do have to consider the facts and reflect on them. If we do not do this, we can not expect to be taken seriously and are fooling ourselves and entering into gay marriage on a whim. I believe that if the gay community so badly wants the right to marry then they need to show cause for their case. They need to show that they are ready to do it PROPERLY. From my personal experience 99% of gay males are promiscuous and can not treat a partner with any form of love, dignity, faithfulness or respect. Instead, partners are treated like consumable items that are to be used and discarded once your sexual urges carry you elsewhere. Yes, this is completely true. Let's not be foolish enough to deny it. I have walked a very long road to healing because of horrendous relationship experiences I've had with other gay men. I went into the gay world with a Christian up-bringing and values. I went into the gay world full of hope that I'd meet a kind and loving man who wanted to share a life together and be monogamous. For me, if I love someone with my heart there is just no way I could ever cheat. It's just not a question and it doesn't even enter my mind. Well, let me tell you that my gay dating experiences in my 20's were like an induction into another world. I have experienced some form of infidelity or abuse in EVERY relationship without exception. Either I was being cheated on, or the person I was dating was actually cheating on their partner and not being truthful about it. Partners have also all been abusive to varying degrees. I have yet to encounter one man who has been different. In the gay scene I have seen countless examples of this in other gay people's lives. It has always made me sick to my stomach. Where is the love? What are gay relationships built on? Sexual gratification or love? Most gay men would scoff at me for still holding onto ideals such as love, monogamy and marriage. It's sad to see how their hearts have hardened. So lets ask ourselves, why do we want gay marriage so badly? Are we ready for it? Will we do it properly? I know I'd have no problem doing it properly if I got married and I'd love to get married one day if I met the right man. I also know of a very small number of wonderful gay men who certainly would do marriage properly too. However, I regret to say that the majority of gay men out there are not ready for marriage. I base everything I've said on hard evidence - observations and personal experiences. My comments are not based on irrationality.
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